What is happiness? Everyone is in search of happiness and happiness is different for everyone of us. But as I’ve grown a little older and – I hope – wiser, I’ve discovered that happiness is something that is found in small things. I also found out that what I once thought would make me happy is no longer so today.
I found out that happiness is not found in things I hope to have. I once thought a 42 inch LCD full high definition television would make me happy. I kept looking at those TVs every time I walked into an electronics store. I finally got my wish; the thrill is gone; and so is the happiness.
Then came the Blu-ray player and I wanted one too. I looked at it for a full year in electronics stores and it finally sits in my living room: I got what I wanted and that moment of happiness lasted only a few days.
I would say like Solomon, Vanity of vanities, all is vanity (Eccl 1:2). I learned the first key to happiness: Learn to appreciate simple things and manage desires. We cannot be truly happy if we keep on “wanting” or “desiring” more than what we have. Contentedness is the gateway to happiness. “We always have enough to be happy if we are enjoying what we do have — and not worrying about what we don’t have.”
I find happiness in a nice cup of coffee, a bowl of sweet potato porridge and an article well written. Yes, I derive pleasure from writing every morning; no one asks me to do it neither was it thrown to me. But the simple thought that someone is reading it and appreciating every word of it is enough motivation for me; and this makes me happy.
So I have learned to cherish the happiness of moments, rather than pursuing the imagined bliss of a future goal that I might never reach. It is not to be the CEO of my company. It is not to reach the top of Mt Everest before I reach sixty. It is not to have half a dozen of grandchildren sitting round me and listening to old grandpa’s stories; although that would make me very happy. Psa 127:4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. 5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them.
Happiness is not success. Happiness is not pleasure. Happiness is not fun. Our conception of happiness is often fatally flawed by the belief that fun equals happiness. Too many people equate happiness with success, physical pleasure, and fun. These are the myths that distract us from pursuing true happiness. Most people conjure an image of people laughing, eating, drinking, or partying. Very few people conjure a picture of a woman sitting quietly on her porch swing, enjoying a great book; a man just as quietly enjoying his vegetable garden; a couple married for thirty-five years walking hand in hand; or a young couple raising their children.’’ (From Matthew Kelly, author of The Rhythm of Life: Living Every Day with Passion and Purpose)
Happiness is finding pleasures in the small little things of everyday’s life. Happiness is seeing the smiles of your loved ones each day. Happiness is caring for your spouse, your child, a dear friend or another family member or even doing good to a complete stranger.
We can add more happiness and light to our lives by doing some small and simple acts everyday. Though small and simple, these acts will improve our feeling and make our day more enjoyable. Even if we are under pressure and stress, or if we have problems and difficulties, there are many little, and sometimes not so significant actions that can make us feel happy. This happiness might not be strong and deep, and often is of short duration, but it certainly can improve the way we feel.
Heb 13:5 Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” Contentedness is the gateway to happiness: appreciate what we have and give thanks for them.
We heard the saying “I complained because I had no shoes until I saw someone who had no feet.” There is always someone worse off than us, no matter how low we get. Be thankful for the things that we often take for granted in making our own lives possible. Col 3:15 And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful.
What will make you happy this moment? Look no further but look what is in your hands and look at someone beside you. Girls go crazy on their screen idols who can never be their friends or show concern for them. Happiness is found in the family where we belong.
I am happy when I am in the family of God’s people. Psa 122:1: I was glad when they said unto me, Let us go into the house of the LORD. Happiness is found everywhere around us; we just need to open our eyes and learn to appreciate everything and every people around us.
Are you happy today? Phil 4:4: Rejoice in the Lord alway: and again I say, Rejoice. We have God and that is another reason to be happy because Paul says: But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus (Phil 4:19). Happiness is just a prayer away.
Choose to be happy today and you will find it: Happy is that people, whose God is the LORD (Psalm 144:15). God’s people are happy people; are you?